THE MUTHA EFFIN DRESS POST!

5.22.11

Hi ladies! Well, I've made my decision on the Dress Debate. I've been going back and forth for months about what dress to buy. I know some of you were getting a little stressed by it... *cough*Shwee*cough* And I was too. It's a big decision for someone who is by nature indecisive.

Anyway. Drum roll please. I have decided to go with the Zolotova dress from Wai-Ching. That's the one with the colorful skirt. However, there's a twist. Wai-Ching is doing the Zolotova skirt in custom, but Starkers Corsetry is going to be making me a corset to wear as the top. Sorry I didn't talk to you guys about it, but I realized the reason I couldn't commit to the Zol dress was that I don't love the top and trying to change it was going to be difficult.  So I've been talking to Starkers and they said they can custom make a fuller coverage corset for me. Now Amber had problems with an Etsy dealer when she ordered a corset for her wedding so I'm being extra extra careful. Starkers actually wants a ton of measurements AND photos showing where I want the neckline to fall. I'll be getting a cotton mock-up too and may send them a bra that fits me as well. They've been making corsets for 11 years and we've been conversing through emails. I trust them. They've also been on Offbeat Bride a ton of times.  

To put it all together, starting from the top, I'm going to have a feather and or flower fascinator with a small veil. Then the skull earrings from a previous post. On my shoulders I'm going to wear a cream colored bolero, maybe with some flower details, possibly a peacock feather. Under that I'll have the corset in black and then the Wai-Ching skirt. To see the skirt go to http://www.wai-ching.com/. It is a flash site. On the side bar to the right choose "bridal". Scroll down to the Zolotova dress. The skirt is the one I'll be ordering in custom colors, reds and blacks with some teal highlights. We haven't discussed the colors in detail. I'll have her help me get the right balance so the skirt looks right.

So yeah. It is good to get that out of the way.

Aaron and I are meeting with the caterer on the 30th and Aaron found the hotel contract and is taking care of that.

What else?

There is one problem that I have to get off my chest. Please keep this to yourselves but I could use some moral support. My good friend Wendy is supposed to perform our ceremony. She is like a second mother to me and I have known her since I was 12. Her daughter and I used to be very good friends and it was that friend that introduced Aaron and I. Long story short we had a falling out and are not friends now. A year ago or so we talked and I felt like we had closure. Last week she contacted me and told me that she did not want her mother to perform the wedding and that doing so would cause a huge rift between them. She said it made her angry and frustrated and that Wendy was only performing the ceremony out of respect for my mother. I talked to Wendy who told me that her daughter threatened her with never speaking to her again if Wendy didn't ask me to let her out of the wedding. Wendy is very hurt by this, as am I. Wendy is going to talk to her daughter next week and try and work something out. My question is, should I tell Wendy that it's okay if she steps out? Having her perform my wedding was something I asked her to do when I was a teenager and is hugely imprtant to me but I have to consider her feelings too. She told me that anything her daughter does is not my fault and that she will still perform the ceremony. But I still feel guilty. Another part of me simply doesn't want her to win which is hugely childish of me. So, what to do? I'll feel sad if she doesn't perform the ceremony and guilty if she does. I could really use some advice here.

Thanks ladies for being there for me!